It's Military School For You Young Lady!

HELP! My little Alyssa has turned into a destructive teenager! She has the biggest attitude under the sun and has been destroying nearly everything. She has been drawing on the furniture/walls (come on, that is something only toddlers do!), she tore off the vinyl lettering in her bathroom along with some of the wall, put stickers all over the bathtub, AND SHE MADE A HOLE ABOUT THE DIAMATER OF A WATER BOTTLE IN THE WALL! I AM ON THE VERGE OF A BREAKDOWN! I have no idea what to do about this. I have tried different approaches, but nothing seems to work. I have yelled, tried time outs, grounded her, took all her toys away, spankens, lovingly talked to her, and it all turns out the same. She does not have any remorse for anything she does. No matter what kind of punishment she gets, it's like no big thing to her. I don't know how to get her to stop. I have been praying and praying for an answer or that things will just click and she will understand that it's not ok to disrespect your parents and destroy property.